Anonymous asked:
What's wrong with Gandhi?
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Aziz Ansari is fucking cancelled.
I’m sick to my stomach.
Fuck men.
Here’s the link to the article if anyone’s interested. Trigger warning: sexual assault, graphic depictions of nonconsensual sex (oral and penetrative)
I went on a date with Aziz Ansari. It turned into the worst night of my life.
Please take this trigger warning seriously. They describe in great detail what happened and it was personally difficult to get through the entire article.
Anyone’s free to DM me if you’d like a general, less detailed and less triggering idea of what happened. Your mental and emotional well-being comes first. Look out for yourselves.
Im just so done with any concept of men being “woke”. It’s literally impossible for them.
thechocolatebrigade answered:
Where do I begin?
- Criticized the Jews for defending themselves against the Holocaust because he insisted that they should have committed public mass suicide in order to “shame” the Germans instead of fighting back. His exact words were, “But the Jews should have offered themselves to the butcher’s knife. They should have thrown themselves into the sea from the cliffs. As it is, they succumbed anyway in their millions.”
- Wrote an open letter to the British people in 1940 telling them to surrender to the Axis even if it mean accepting genocide.
- Was very anti-black. I hope you can stomach reading how he treated black people in South Africa. It’s fucking disgusting.
- Refused his wife life-saving medication (for religious reasons), but those religious reasons all of a sudden no longer applied to him when he was in a similar position.
- Refused to have sex with his wife for the last 38 years of their marriage. He felt that in order to test his commitment to celibacy, he would have beautiful young women (including his own great niece) lie next to him naked through the night. His wife, whom he described as looking like a “meek cow” was no longer desirable enough to be a solid test.
- Believed that Indian women who were raped lost their value as a human.
- During his time as a dissident in South Africa, he discovered that a young male was harassing two of his female followers. He responded by cutting the girls’ hair off to ensure the “sinner’s eye” was “sterilized.” He later boasted about the incident in his writings, pushing the message to all Indians that women should carry responsibility for sexual attacks upon them.
- Argued that fathers could be justified in killing daughters who had been sexually assaulted for the sake of family and community honor.
- Believed that menstruation was a manifestation of the distortion of a woman’s soul by her sexuality.
- Waged a war against contraceptives, labeling Indian women who used them as whores.
- Held the attitude that women were simply creatures that could bring either pride or shame to the men who own them.
Sources:
Websites: Women Suffer From Gandhi’s Legacy, People who most likely chose Gandhi as a historical figure to do a report on and immediately regretted it, On Mahatma Gandhi, his pathetic racism and advancement of segregation of black people by Sentletse Diakanyo, Not All Peaceful: 13 Racist Quotes Gandhi Said About Black People by Nick Chiles
Books: Sex and Power by Rita Banerji, On Pacifism by Derrick Jensen, The Collected Works of Mahatma Gandhi
Gandhi was a piece of shit and I hate when people site him as this peaceful angelic type of dude..
Well shit.
Pre-Ariandel Friede and a Liliane design. I always imagined Liliane dressing kind of like Gwyndolin- being the last born child and a user of miracles.
im in a crisis situation right now and i am at risk of becoming homeless. im going to type a bigger post explaining shit soon but i am literally close to the point where i will be forced to live on the street in a place i have almost no knowledge of.
i am begging my followers please help me because i am terrified and i dont know what to do.
anyway so i feel like the western obsession with romantic love is symptomatic of the absence of community we experience in our socially isolating society,
it’s the only type of love we’re really “allowed” to have and it’s really sad. i hope everyone realizes at some point that you don’t need to be dating someone to love them, and that you don’t need any romance just to be loved.
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Lundy Bancroft, “Why does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.” (via womentoadmire)
Like, I seriously don’t know why anyone would use “mtf” when 99% of the time you’re just saying it to substitute the term “trans women” (and obvs the same vice versa).
I got into an argument with someone about this and they kept circling back to “well then what am I supposed to use as shorthand for trans woman?!”
Like I dunno, maybe… trans woman? lol It doesn’t exactly take 30 years to type out and doesn’t require you to misgender yourself
I’d say just woman is good shorthand for trans woman too, but I might be getting too radical here lmao
petition to call “fanservice” something else bc i am in fact a fan and that type of thing does me a DISservice
proposed alternate term: “perv pandering”
pros:
- makes clear who it is for
- frames it in a negative light
- gross dudebro fans like to accuse any attempt at diversity or representation as being “pandering” so it’s fun to point out how they’re being pandered to
- alliteration
Okay I’ve been getting upset about this subject a lot lately so I might as well type it up.
Your Orientation and the Ace Identity
Just to start with, I’m a gay (homosexual) asexual.
“But how can you be both homosexual and asexual?” you might ask.
That’s because the sexual orientations have nothing to do with whether you feel sexual attraction or not at all, despite what some definition written by a cishet white male doctor from fifty years ago might say.
Let me put it this way.
Sexual orientations = Who (Gender)
Ace identities = How (Lack of Sexual Attraction, Not Affected by Gender)
They’re about Who you’re attracted to, not how you feel that attraction. As such, asexual is not an orientation, but rather the lack of sexual attraction. It’s a valid identity, but it is not an orientation.
The Problem With Romantics and Split-Attraction Model
See, there’s a really big problem with the romantics, and why I refuse to ID with them and refuse to use the Split-Attraction model.
The split attraction model, for those who don’t know, goes like this:
____romantic (romantic attraction)
____sexual (sexual attraction)
Which almost completely contradicts my previous point:
The sexualities have nothing to do with sexual attraction.
Splitting attraction like this is misleading and inherently sexualizes the orientations, which makes me and a lot of others incredibly uncomfortable, but you can use it to ID yourself if you want to! Just do not use the split attraction model for people who don’t already use it.
When you use the split attraction model for non-aces and people who don’t use it themself, you are sexualizing them without their consent by making their orientation inherently sexual.
You can use the sexual orientations even if you’re ace and don’t experience sexual attraction.
The Problems with Allosexual
The term allosexual was coined by ace individuals to refer to non-aces. The problem with this term is that it implies a power structure and axis of oppression that does not exist.
Women are not privileged for having sexual attraction. Women are invalidated and oppressed for being sexual or non-sexual.
SGA and Trans individuals are discriminated against MORE if they experience sexual attraction.
The only people who are privileged for their sexual attraction are cisgender hetero males, primarily white.
How CisHet Aces and CisHet Aros are still Straight
“But how can they be straight AND asexual?” you might ask.
It’s easy. Because asexuality does not affect your orientation. It is a modifier identity that tells others you have a lack of sexual attraction.
You agree that Heterosexual non-aces are straight, yes?
Then Hetero- Aces are straight too.
Ace identities don’t affect your orientation, and as such do not affect the privileges or oppressions you have based on your gender identity or orientation..
The Ace Community and why it is not be LGBT
This is a hot topic lately and I can sort of understand why. Let’s begin with how the A for Ace campaign began.
David Jay, a Cisgender Hetero Ace man advocated to make the Ace Community LGBT so it could use the LGBT Community’s visibility.
Let’s start of here: He is a CisHet man. He had no right advocating to include the Ace Community in the LGBT community because he is both Cisgender and Hetero.
The LGBT community began as a movement to fight systematic homophobia and transphobia.
This right here is the big ticket item. I’ll try and make it simpler to understand why other orientations and genders outside the LGBT acronym are included.
Homophobia - Systematic opression directed at those who experience same gender attraction. All LGBT subsects have systematically suffered under this.
Biphobia - Largely stems from homophobia. It’s a mixture of homophobia and other discrimination that only bisexuals and those under the bi umbrella (MGA) face.
Lesbophobia - Homophobia specifically targeted at women. Includes Misogyny. Only wlw experience this type of oppression.
Transphobia - Specific set of systemized oppressions that Trans, nonbinary, and agender individuals face for not matching their socially designated gender. Trans individuals also suffer under homophobia, which was equally directed at them throughout history.
That was a bit longer than I planned to write it, but that’s the gist of it.
The Ace Community, as it stands, does not suffer under any of these other oppressions, or subsets of them, for being ace. Ace discrimination and stigma does not stem from homophobia or transphobia, but from ignorance, ableism, and misogyny.
The Problem with Q*eer
The problem with q*eer, other than it being a slur, is that it has solely been aimed at those suffering under homophobia (and its subsets) and transphobia.
If you are Cisgender and Hetero, you are not allowed to use q*eer.
We are not the Q*eer community. It is a slur. You may only self-identify as it if you experience SGA/MGA or are Trans.
In Summary
- Cisgender Hetero Aces are straight because being ace does not affect the privileges one has by virtue of their gender identity or orientation.
- Allosexual is a homophobic, transphobic, and sexist term that implies that LBGT individuals and women are privileged for feeling sexual attraction.
- The Ace Community does not suffer under an axis of oppression by virtue of being Ace.
- Q*eer is a slur, not an umbrella term. Only SGA/MGA and Trans individuals can use it to identify themselves.
In closure, we are valid, we are loved and accepted by eachother, but we are not LGBT for being ace.
you really have to evaluate yourself before you get yourself in a relationship. unless you’re in a quick fling, you have to be in a certain state to give the type of energy love requires and that’s no joke. i’m tired of y’all getting into relationships because you want to feel loved when the real issue is that you’re replacing self love with romantic love. when you truly love yourself and appreciate the love your friends give you, you won’t be so eager to get into a relationship.
i think that people who actively Want relationships are lacking compassion and care either from themselves or other people, or maybe they ignore it because we’re taught romantic love is the flat out best. but it is not. when you jump into relationships lacking these, you’re gonna be more desperate to feel those things and may compromise your standards/values. you might feel neglected when they don’t talk to you a lot for a day or so. and it’s not necessarily them, it’s you. you have to feel loved to be able to love and trust without desperation. i’m 110% speaking from experience.